Greeting my gentle readers to another installment of the “Be
Yourself, Often” blog. A time when can step back. Reflect and mindfully
meditate and appreciate on the miracles that existed in the moments of the
week. Where we can look and embrace and acknowledge and accept not only the
positives in the week, but also the challenges and what we are and were able to
learn from the scorecard of the week.
Last week, my radio show “Prescribing Spiritual HOPE” on the
ULC BTR Radio Network talked about patience as a virtue, which ties into the
fact that we can, and should be not rushing through each thing to get to the
next. All that in and of itself tends to do is foster frustrations and feelings
of emptiness or disappointment when we realize that the proverbial brass ring
that we have been aiming for comes with a healthy tarnish attached to it! I
mean seriously, after this time and effort and resources, you expect me to
polish the darn thing? Seriously. What a bummer, man. And herein lie the
opportunities and “teachable moments”. That new car will rust, the promotion
aint attached to sunshine and roses and the grass is only greener on the other
side secondary to healthy “organic fertilizer”.
So, what should and can we do to ensure our expectations do
not become resentments? I’m still learning at this one my friends, but frankly…
would rather be learning and seeing it with an open and child’s eyes than
become a bitter spiky bear. This is the wonderful gift that we have which is capturing
the myriad of gifts along the path, the nuts and berries instead of looking to
the final endpoint. Rarely do things exceed our expectations in this big, busy,
chaos driven life. So why DO we expect that perfection? Because we pay for it?
Because we have been coddled and if anyone tells us we are NOT perfect, they
can be slapped with 1000 lawsuits? Seriously my friend, that is setting us up
for disaster. It was recently identified and made international news about a
principal at commencement that told the students that they are not special, but
through effort could become so.
Needless to say, all the mainstream press quoted was the
first have and in fine print at the end of the article stated the second piece
of the commencement exercise. But it is very true… we do have the ability to be
special, are already unique, but the end goals and hopes (brass ring) will not
be handed to you. Just as ordination is not for everyone, like medicine or law…
it requires the extra effort to make that ring polished and stand out!
Expectations often will drive disappointments, which will bring resentments and
dis-ease which will ultimately drive and foster disease. Count me out. A title
or position does not denote or define refinement, contentment or happiness.
Nope. Its is what you DO with it that drives the DDQ, which is an extension of
IQ. That being the Dream and Dedication Quotient and is independent, yet
augmented by intelligence. Thus true intelligence does NOT derive happiness and
there needs to be that high DDQ, couple with drive and work that determines
happiness. It is the people that are not afraid to touch their dreams that see
miracles in the moment.
Happiness or not, drive or not, disease or not. Interesting
that we have some choice and Free Will Covenant over this, isn’t it?
Fascinating.
Point is, if you want happiness… its already there and
waiting for you at the nearest flower, person, pet, piece of sky, raindrop or
blade of grass. If you expect more and go for societally perceived wins, that
are ok as well. Just be real in the moment, be prepared to work and appreciate
the small moments along the way. For to really shine and derive and define
yourself is to polish that unique specialness that you DO have, and let it
shine! And to show that Light to others in a ray of inspiration on a cloudy day
is potentially to find and be yourself, often.
~~~
Rev. Dr. Joel Lamoure July 1, 2012
(CANADA DAY)
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